An extraordinarily uplifting day: Together We Thrive

Yesterday was magical, a wholly uplifting series of events that made my heart feel full and helped me make the wise decision to head to bed early rather than continue watching the final presidential debate.

Through the boys' school, I have met some tremendous women, women who inspire me and who are making the world a better place in the ways that they parent, live, work and effect positive change.

Diara recently invited me to attend the Washington Area Women's Foundation annual Leadership Luncheon. WAWF is an organization of which she's been part for some time, and I quickly saw why. It is an anti-poverty foundation dedicated to economic empowerment for women and girls through education, job training, and childcare (which of course helps make all education and job training infinitely more possible).

WAWF's programming is rooted in research and data and is the only foundation in the DC area that focuses exclusively on investing in women. And, as we heard from WAWF's President and CEO, Jennifer Lockwood-Shabat, WAWF will be doubling down on its commitment to standing publicly and proudly for racial equity by helping "write a new narrative that celebrates women and girls of color." and funding a great deal of research on their realities. For example, African American girls comprise 8% of the student population but receive 14% of suspensions. Why?

Since 1998, WAWF has awarded "nearly $11 million in grants to more than 170 community-based organizations in the Washington, D.C. region" and between January and December 2015 alone, "helped women increase their income and assets by $3.6 million." One keynote speaker was Juanita King, a woman who was addicted to crack cocaine for more than 20 years, became HIV positive during that time, and spent time in prison for drug distribution. Determined to get back on her feet, Juanita enrolled in Goodwill's Hospitality Training Program (funded in part by WAWF) and recently celebrated two years of employment at the Marriott Marquis in DC and 8 years of staying clean. In her speech, she proudly called herself an "overcomer" and it was clear that everyone agreed completely. What a bright light.

Lesli, another good friend I met through schools, emceed the luncheon, and Valerie Jarrett (yes, that Valerie Jarrett) was the primary keynote. I'm a pretty politically aware person, but as Ms. Jarrett walked us through just some of the Obama administration's accomplishments on behalf of women, anti-poverty work, education, and gender and pay equity, I was deeply moved. Increased prioritization of STEM education, sexual assault prevention programming, dropping poverty and unemployment rates, continued low teen pregnancy rates, the Lilly Ledbetter fair pay act AND a subsequent Executive Order to further work against unequal pay....

Such a vibrant, impressive woman!

I look forward to getting more involved in the Women's Foundation because together, we do thrive.

After hurrying home to change, pick up the kids, and drop them back home, I headed out to Anne Arundel Community College. Imelda (our wonderful housekeeper who we've known for six years) was graduating from AACC's GED program. I was so honored that she invited me and would not have missed the ceremony for the world. Her mom, Dalila, was in from Mexico, and the two of us and Imelda's good friend and colleague, Jackie, were Imelda's cheering section.

I've written about Imelda before. She is very special to me, and I am continually inspired by her work ethic, innate dignity, kindness, and perseverance. I am so proud of her and hope she'll allow me to continue cheering her on as she begins her college career at AACC. 

As I looked around the room last night, I was, again, intensely moved. The three student speakers talked about how depression, early pregnancies, and life challenges had caused them to decide to leave high school years ago. How they never thought they'd be standing on the stage, diploma in hand, futures bright. There were graduates of all ages beaming with pride and joy as they moved tassel from left to right. There was babies and children and parents and grandparents cheering from the seats below. 

I thought about how much harder some must work than others, how poverty and other disadvantages are so terribly difficult to overcome, and although I reveled in the celebration, I also felt my heart pinch.

There is such great inequality in this country, and it is unjust and deeply sad. I am so grateful for organizations like the Women's Foundation and Anne Arundel Community College, places and people who know that none of us can do it alone, and some need and deserve extra support.

I stopped watching the debate last night because after such an uplifting day of community and togetherness, I felt my elation dissipating with every lie, interruption, and snarky attempt to divide and sow mistrust that Trump sneered out. Neither candidate is perfect, but only Clinton seems to have any real commitment to unity. To strengthening the communal quilt that we as a country so desperately need for both shelter and cohesion. 

Women like Juanita and Imelda don't need more challenges in their lives. They need more support. Together we can do better. Together we can thrive.

Dear Lego

Dear Lego,

My Oliver will be putting a letter in the mail to you tomorrow-actually 2; one to Denmark, and one to US headquarters-but I want to share this here too in the hopes that you will seriously consider making a little boy's dream come true.

How?

By putting back into circulation (or finding a set in your warehouse and sending it to us) your Imperial Flagship pirate ship that my sweet boy found in this book:

This set has been discontinued, and the only one I can find is $700 on Amazon. No can do. 

So, Lego, while I begrudge your book just a bit for the Especially for Girls spread (even though you explain your rationale) which includes some seriously annoying, noseless cartoon girls, and on the next page a large pink-floored beauty shop ("comes stocked with a variety of bows and clips...as well as lipsticks, sunglasses, and a hairdryer."), you have provided my sons with countless hours of dreamy innovation and fun. I am grateful!

Also, we loved Legoland in CA-a job well done!-and one day hope to visit your factory in Denmark.

But in the meantime, if you could help my Oliver get an Imperial Flagship pirate set for not anywhere near $700, I would be endlessly grateful and even more of a fan.

Thank you,

A mother who loves you even though your product has pierced my feet more times than you can imagine (rendering me speechless and in pain a la this rare photo of a shark stepping on a Lego. Hat tip to Robert Peterson on Twitter for the below gem).

Waltzing and cupcakes

I know you have all been champing at the bit to hear how the first night of cotillion was. Did J's clothes hurt all evening? Was learning to waltz horrific?

I am thrilled to share that his shoes and stiff collar quickly ceased inflicting pain, "the waltz is not very hard. I can teach you, Mom!" and my dear child learned the six steps of proper self-introduction.

Can I get an amen for this latter feature of cotillion? Stand up, smile and make eye contact, extend hand, shake firmly and pump twice, and introduce self. I was so overjoyed by this lesson that I may have issued some sort of bribe: I'm going to be watching you, honey, and every time I see you introduce yourself OR, if you already know the person, smile/make eye contact/inquire about their well-being I will make a mental note and you may very well receive some sort of reward after some time passes.

As it turns out, Jack started a business yesterday, Jack's Silver Polishing, and made business cards. He was going to drop them in people's mailboxes, but I said, "Honey, you'd be better served by knocking on doors, using your new introduction skills, and handing out cards that way."

"OK, Mom. I'll try it." Will wonders never cease?!

He felt well-received so I do believe cotillion is and will continue to be a grand success. 

We had dinner with friends last night, by the way. Look at my cupcakes. Cute and festive, yes?